A Way To Any Woman’s Heart

Posted on | April 1, 2008 |

What’s the mystery of finding true love? Better yet, what is the way to a woman’s heart?

Chocolate? Flowers? Compliments? Attention?

Some men (and women) think it’s a big huge puzzle that has to be spread out on the table and filled in over time. Some may think a way to someone’s heart is something they’ll never be able to do. Some think it’s too hard to figure out.

But I’ll let you in on a key secret to finding out whether or not you are really meant for someone, or if someone is meant for you.

Yes, believe it or not, I’ll give you one secret to a woman’s heart…or any person’s heart.

One of my favorite movies that for some reason I adore more as time passes on is Phenomenon, starring John Travolta and Kyra Sedgewick. It’s an old movie, almost twelve years old I believe, but it contains some pretty good principles for living life.

Kyra Sedgewick’s character is a single mom eeking out a life on her own by crafting bent willow chairs. They’re rustic, they’re one of a kind, and George (John Travolta’s character) says that people are wild for them and selling like hotcakes.

Later, we find out that he’s the one that’s been buying every one of them, and she is mortified. She asks him why? Why would he do that!

He says, “Because you made them.” He bought them not because they were his style, or comfortable, or even the right size. What he realized is that she put herself into every one of those chairs. It mattered. And he loved them not for what they were, but because she had put so much of herself and her time into them.

There is one point in the movie (no more spoilers, promise) where Robert Duvall’s character, Doc, says to another character who is making fun of George:

Doc:        How’s your love life, Banes?

Banes:    Lisa left.

Doc:        Yeah. That’s what I thought.

                Now George, he’s got a love by his side. And she’s sticking with him, you know why?
                Because he bought her chairs. That’s pretty smart to me. You ever buy Lisa’s chairs?

Banes:    [chuckles and chides] Doc’s really drunk tonight.

Doc:        Every woman has her chairs…something she needs to put herself into, Banes.     You ever figure out what Lisa’s chairs were and buy’em?

So really, it’s simple. And yet not so simple. Do you really look for the “chairs” in people’s lives? What do they really put themselves into? What do they really work on in their life as an ongoing process?

Children?
Work?
Family?
Faith?
Music?
Hobby?

Once you listen to someone’s heart, once you look into what they’re all about, once you know what they put themselves wholeheartedly into, you’ll find a window to their soul. If it’s something you love, value, or admire about them, and want to have decorate your life, let them know how much it means to you. You’ll end up cracking the code to anyone’s heart.

Psst. Find those chairs.

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